Why I dislike the term “Good” Christian Girls

Good Christian Girl I used to believe I was a “good” Christian girl. Now every time I hear this phrase, I cringe. Growing up, I believed that being a Christian meant being good, moral, and perfect, so I tried to be a “good” person. I failed, a lot.

It was not until college, that I learned that being a Christian has nothing to do with being good enough. Being a Christian is realizing that nothing we could do would ever be enough to cover our sins, and that is why we need Jesus.

I’ll never forget the day my high school boyfriend told me I was a “bad” Christian. I thought I was a “good” Christian girl for many reasons, but in regards to our relationship I thought I was “good” because we had never had sex. We were on our way to school and had been fighting the whole drive there. I told him that God had convicted me, and that I wanted to stop pushing physical boundaries. My boyfriend did not like or understand this idea. He wasn’t a Christian, and didn’t understand my conviction. I don’t blame him, because I did a bad job of living my life for Jesus. His response, “But we already have done these things, how can we just stop?”

Through out our relationship, I openly called myself a Christian, yet I wasn’t walking with God. I considered myself a “good” Christian girl because we weren’t technically having sex, but we were doing everything else. I was believing and living a lie and this would finally be brought to light.

We got out of the car. He slammed the door. I slammed the door. And as we walked up that hill to go to homeroom, he looked at me and said, “You’re a bad Christian.”

My mouth dropped and my eyes watered. No one had ever pointed out my hypocrisy.

I thought I was a “good” Christian, but I based that on my morals. I never got drunk, had sex, killed anyone, and was a really nice person. Doesn’t that make me a “good” Christian? I thought God’s love for me was based on what I did, not what Christ had done.

It is not possible to be a “good” Christian girl. But it is possible to do our best to live for Jesus and through our actions point others to him. I was living my life for myself, not for God.

Tweet: When we describe ourselves as “good” Christian girls, we take away the reason Jesus had to die.

Once I gave my life to Jesus and decided to live for him in college, God looked at me differently. He now looks at me as pure, clean, and holy – like Jesus. Jesus does not make me good. Jesus makes me forgiven. Previously, I had missed the heart of Christianity. I failed to realize that I was a broken sinner who needed a savior. I did not know God was my savior, thus I gave Jesus a bad rep.

Looking back, I had done a horrible job representing Christ to my friends in high school. I know that their salvation is not based on me and what I did or did not do, but I still wish I could have changed my example to them. I am sorry that I said one thing, and did another. I am sorry that I was that girl who said she was a Christian, but her life said differently. In high school, I was not authentically following Jesus. Since fully surrendering my life to Jesus in college, I’ve experienced so much freedom knowing that Jesus’ love for me does not depend on what I do.

No matter what you’ve done, Jesus can make you new. He can take your life and redeem you. Friends, I pray that you will realize that God doesn’t want you to be “good”. God wants you to be holy, and this is only possible though Jesus.

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10 Comments on Why I dislike the term “Good” Christian Girls

  1. Kerri Schneider
    November 19, 2014 at 7:31 am (3 years ago)

    Thanks for your honesty, Joy. It’s a wonderful thing to be able to put into words things you have learned (and are learning)so that you can help encourage others to cling to the Lord in ALL things.

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    • joypedrow
      November 19, 2014 at 9:24 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks for your encouraging comment Kerri and for visiting my blog. It is wonderful to see all the God is teaching me put into words!

      Reply
  2. SP
    November 20, 2014 at 9:19 pm (3 years ago)

    We all need to look at ourselves this way.

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  3. Sam
    November 24, 2014 at 9:38 am (3 years ago)

    Such a beautiful and vulnerable post. I’ve had a very similar walk, not finding my true identity in Christ until high school. I will definitely be sending this out to all of the high schoolers in the small group I lead. Thank you for being a strong role model for our young women!

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    • joypedrow
      November 24, 2014 at 10:39 am (3 years ago)

      Hi Sam! Thanks for your comment and e-mail. I really appreciate you sending my blog to all the young women you know.

      Reply
  4. Zvishuwo
    February 2, 2015 at 11:08 am (3 years ago)

    Great post! I also hate the term, especially now that I’m in college. This type of stereotype is such a barrier, especially when trying to reach out to people and letting them know about Christ.

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    • joypedrow
      February 2, 2015 at 7:59 pm (3 years ago)

      Hello Zvishuwo! Glad you found my blog. I just went to check yours out =] I love seeing other college age women blogging! I’m so excited for you and your blog!

      Reply
  5. Mayra Villarruel
    May 9, 2015 at 2:11 pm (2 years ago)

    Such a beautiful post, thank you!

    Reply

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