This week I went to lunch with one of my best friends from high school. I absolutely love this girl and love spending time with her. She doesn’t realize it, but she always teaches me lessons about myself and God. During our lunch together, we were very vulnerable and both shared our current struggles. What struck both of us, was that most of our current struggles were the same as our past struggles.
She said, “This year is going to be different. I’m going to work on these issues. It is going to be a better year.”
Déjà vu. I’ve heard this before.
I told her that she said the same thing last summer, she said, “Wow, that is depressing.”
After lunch, I couldn’t get those words out of my mind. Like my friend, I am bad at following through on goals. At the start of new semesters I always have new goals. Here are some examples:
- I’m going to stick to a healthy diet and work out regularly.
- This semester will be different, because I will pray more!
- Finally, maybe this semester I’ll actually understand how Jesus can satisfy my desire to be married.
Sadly, I never last longer than a week or two at attempting to reach these goals. I give up or just simply forget about the goals. The end of the semester comes, and I say to myself, “Wow, that is depressing.” I don’t want to continue this cycle. I don’t want to spend my whole life making goals only to never check off the boxes. I want to see growth in my life. My dad always told me that when we make goals they have to be specific and have multiple sub-goals to reach each one. Here are my main goals and sub-goals to reach them:
1. Grow closer to God
- Spend time with God
- Read my daily chapters of the Bible on my Bible app plan
- Pray for 10 minutes
2. Live a more healthy life
- Exercise at least 30 minutes
- Healthy snacks
- Don’t eat past 10
3. Be content in this stage of singleness
- No more romantic comedies
For June, I am trying something new. I am putting my goals into a excel document and checking them off daily to help me remember them. I am sick of being depressed that my goals are not being met. Below is a screen shot so you can understand what I’m talking about.
Important to note:
- Make spending time with God a goal for this month. It is easy to look at this as a list of rules to follow, and think if I follow these rules then I will grow. That isn’t always true, because the change begins in the heart. God is the only one who can change our heart, so we have to spend time with him. As I was writing this, the same friend texted me saying she had been thinking about our conversation as well. In the car she heard a Christian radio station say, “We have to see God’s way in all we do instead of living by the rules.” Make sure you are not just following rules you made for the month, but that you are actively trying to follow God’s plan for you and become all that he made you to be.
- If you miss a day, do not get mad at yourself and give up. It is okay. Some of the goals you set for yourself are going to be impossible to achieve every day in our busy lives. The important thing is to not give up.
- Find a friend to be accountable with. For example, I’m getting my parents involved. The three of us are going to put our lists on the fridge to hold each other accountable.
What are some goals that you tend to give up on? Do you repeat them over and over again?
If yes, join me on this journey. Below there is a blank pdf of the chart I made. Print it out and fill in your goals.
Together we can experience growth.
Click here for pdf: Blank June Goals pdf
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