“Porn for women” ranked number one in searches on Pornhub in 2017, increasing by over 1,400 percent since 2016. Pornography is a growing epidemic. 1 out of 3 visitors to adult sites are women. As the number of women addicted to pornography rises, women need your help finding freedom from sexual shame and brokenness. They need to learn a biblical theology of sex.
Do you feel unequipped to deal with pornography addiction in your ministry? Unsure of how to respond, lead and guide women as they open up about their struggles? Join Joy and learn how to minister to women and free them from sexual shame and sexual addiction. By the end, you will know how to free, restore and equip women through the gospel of Jesus Christ, so that they will love him more, understand their brokenness, and find freedom.
Session 1: The Power of Your Story
Joy thought something was wrong with her. She had questions about sex and felt shameful for her desires… this led her to pornography, which continued her cycle of shame. In Session 1, Joy will share her story of finding freedom from sexual brokenness. You will look at the statistics and characteristics surrounding women and pornography and define addiction.
Reading: No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree
Session 2: Sexual Shame
In Session 2, you will unpack sexual shame and its impact on sexual sin. Shame makes women feel unworthy of love, especially the love of God. Without feeling worthy of that love, women continue to live in a cycle of sexual sin and unworthiness. You will answer questions like: What are ways you can love women with addiction instead of shame them? What are ways you can work on changing the heart and not the behavior?
Reading: Chose one: The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves by Curt Thompson; or: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown
Session 3: What Does It Mean to be a Sexual Being?
God created humans as sexual beings, yet many women feel shame for their sexual desires and curiosities. In Session 3, you will learn that God created women as sexual beings, and you will explore ways woman can live out their sexuality in the way God originally designed it—naked and unashamed. You will go back to the Garden of Eden to restore God’s design for sexuality.
Reading: Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery
Session 4: What Happens in the Brain?
In Session 4, you will talk about what happens in the brain for those who struggle with sexual addiction. You will learn about the chemical reinforcements released in the brain while watching porn and how those reinforce the addictive cycle. You will also talk about masturbation: Is it a sin? Is it ever acceptable? What should a woman do with her sexual desires?
Reading: Choose one: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk’; OR Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction by Maia Szalavitz
Session 5: Lies Porn Addicts Believe
In Session 5, you will discuss lies women believe surrounding sex and porn, including “sex is bad,” “my body needs to look like the women I see on the screen,” and “I’ll always be addicted.” You will discuss how the purity culture perpetuated these lies and how believing these lies deeply affects a woman’s sexuality and spirituality.
Reading: (Optional) Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser
Session 6: Practical Resources
In Session 6, you will create a tool box of practical ways to help women find freedom from porn. You will talk about community, internet filters, recovery ministries, and triggers. You will discuss what healthy accountability looks like and how the church can begin to have conversations about sexuality.
Reading: (Optional) Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot by Mo Isom
Who is this for?
- Women in ministry (parachurch or local church)
- Women discipling women
- Women serving in recovery ministry
What do I get?
- 6 live monthly video calls with your small group, 2 hours of teaching, development, Q/A (via Zoom Meeting)
- Private online community (via Slack) to collaborate with Joy and group
- 1 60-minute coaching call with Joy
- A monthly Mastermind (peer-to-peer) group with 2-3 women
- Access to video sessions, to rewatch or
if you missed a call
What do I invest?
- $135/ month or $750 one-time payment. (USD)
- Participation on live video calls for at least 5 of 6 months
- Engagement in ‘Slack’ online community, sharing questions, ideas, and goals
- Read books or articles Joy recommends for the sessions
1. Apply and pay registration before the group is full (12 spots).
2. We set you up in your online group, where you can ask questions and connect (via Slack.com).
3. Start 1st video session on January 8th, growing with Joy over 6 months and becoming who God made you to be.
SESSION: January – June 2019
Here is the group session schedule: Tuesdays, 6:00-8:00PM CST, January 8th, February 12th, March 12th, April 9th, May 14th, June 11th.
If you can’t make a session, you will have access to a video recording.